I wrote this yesterday (on an actual Monday) and then didn't know if wanted to post it or not. Here goes nothing.
Back again for another I Heart Monday post and this week the struggle is real.
Let's just air this all out.
My father-in-law has cancer. They tried treatment and it seems that it is not working for him. For some people it does. For him, it didn't. It's hard. It's hard to not be there. It's hard to watch my husband and his family go through it. It's hard to physically not be allowed to go there to be with them. It's hard to talk through whatsapp and not be able to give hugs. It's just all so hard.
I can imagine that it's even harder if you are the one who has cancer.
I feel like there are so many questions and not enough answers.
Did you get to do everything you wanted to? Did you see everything you wanted to? Did you fill your life up with experiences instead of things? Did you tell everyone you love them, or you care, or just a simple thank you?
Which brings me back to I Heart Monday. Find the things you love in life. Even when life is hard. Experience everything that interests you. Investigate. Explore. Tell people that you love them, and if you can't do that then just be kind. Say thank you. Give hugs. Make the things you love 'present' in your life.
One of the ways I am doing this is to write in a book called 'One Line A Day'. The best part is, you can purchase it online for $10 (hello Amazon Prime). This is a five year journal in which you are meant to write 'one line a day'.
Sometimes I just write what happened that day, but most of the time I try to write something I liked about the day, something to be thankful for, or just something good. The best part of the day. Some days that is a challenge-some days I run out of space to write!
The pages are displayed in such a way that you write your own year in the blank, and you can see the other years entries on the same page. I think it helps you reflect on the past and reminds you what you did on that day in previous years (if you remembered to write it down!).
Even though I cannot be with my husband and his family during this difficult time, I can honestly say that I have been there FOR them. Thank god for the internet and apps like WhatsApp, FaceTime and email. Honestly, without these modern luxuries, I don't know how we would get through it! Now if only we were in the same time zone...
If you could send some positive energy or a prayer or some good juju or whatever you believe in my way, that would be greatly appreciated.
Hug your families tight and don't forget to make the things you love present in your life. Spend more time. Laugh longer. Love harder.
I'm Tory, the creator behind The Barmy Fox. My current loves