1. a woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth.
1. bring up (a child) with care and affection."the art of mothering"
Usually Mother's Day comes and goes, with a little present for mom and a sweet card, and then it's on with my day. Yes I appreciate my mother, but I haven't really thought twice about it. Like, really really thought about it. This year I have a couple of observations about Mother's Day, and I'd like to share them!
1. I've noticed on my Facebook feed that a lot of people have lost their mothers in the past month, or year, or couple of years. I cannot even imagine how this must feel. How these holidays must feel. It's not just birthdays, Christmas, and Thanksgiving, it's also Mother's Day where we remember our loved ones even more than we already do. Where we are forced to remember that they are no longer with us, and it makes you miss them that much more. For some of you, this is your first Mother's Day without your mom, some of you your second or tenth and still, it must be so hard. I wish I could tell you that it gets easier. I wish I could take that hurt away. But I can't. The only advice I can give is to hold on. Think of all the happy times you had together. Don't let their memories fade, but don't spend the day being sad about it either. Your mom would never want you to be sad. I know lots of moms and they want lots of happiness for their children. This means you too. :)
Like I said, I am not in your shoes, I do not know what it feels like, but one day, hopefully a long long time from now, I will. I will look back and think of the good times we had and celebrate my mother, because my mom is the shit.
2. Everyone has a mother. Even if they're not your birth mother, everyone has someone that they call mom, or even someone that they go to that acts like a 'mom' to them. This could be a grandma, a friend, an aunt or even a friend's mom. Every persons situation is different and that's ok.
Part of the definition above lists the verb form of 'mother' which is 'to bring up with care and affection (mothering).'
Now, I know a lot of people who I could consider a 'mom' in this context, and I think we all could. I think these people should be celebrated as well. :) Don't forget to thank those other women in your life who you turn to for support and advice. They are worthy of your love too!!!
3. Sometimes it's the little things that count the most. Don't stress over getting your mother the right gift. If you don't live close to one another, send flowers or call her for a chat. Send her a letter via pony mail. Who cares if it does not get there right on Mother's Day?! I'm sure she won't remember the day it arrives as much as what you put in it, the words you used and how if made her feel. If you do live close, arrange a brunch or dinner together, get a pedicure. Take a walk down memory lane and talk about your favourite memories from your/her childhood. Or just straight up take a walk together. Make her a homemade card. Draw her a bath and give her an hour of undisturbed soak time. It's not how much money you spend, it's how your spend your time.
All in all, Mother's Day should be about the women who take care of you, the women who you can turn to when you are having a bad day, the ones who are always there. Make sure you let them know.
Happy Mother's Day!! Leave me some love!
I'm so excited to announce that my dear friend Destinee will be guest blogging on The Barmy Fox! This is Destinee's first DIY tutorial and I absolutely love it! She got it off Pinterest, but who doesn't these days. I love that she changed it a bit to make it her own and just went for it! I can't wait to see what else she has up her sleeves!!
Hey there. I’ve been on Pinterest like it’s my job lately and have decided I want to make my house feel more like us (by us, I mean me and my husband). Now, about my husband, his name is Patrick. I love him to death but he is a minimalist and doesn’t really get my love of “country rustic/shabby chic” décor. I could push him on something I REALLY love but I don’t want him to walk through our house and look at something and just not like it.
Here’s what you need (I’ll even include prices!):
· 12 x 12 chipboard (this was on sale at Joann’s, but I *THINK* it was about $4)
· 2” chipboard letters ($2)
· 12 x 12 scrapbook paper ($.59)
· Adhesive spray/paste (I used ModPodge because I had some at home, about $4 depending on size)
· Paint for your letters (I used acrylic paint from Joann’s. $.77)
· Red and black paint pens (I didn’t use this, but permanent marker would work as well!)
· Ribbon (I used twine jute and it was $2 for a spool of it)
· Super glue
· Box cutter
Now, let’s get started.
*Disclaimer, I’m HORRIBLE at taking pictures while I craft. I just get too into it.
Measure 6” on three sides of the chipboard and then use the ruler to connect the sides. Next, use the box cutter and SLOWLY cut along that line. If you’re not careful you’ll end up with jagged edges. GO SLOWLY. Patrick wouldn’t let me do this part, I think he was afraid I would mess up something or hurt myself. (Make sure that you have the chipboard turned the right way, there are little hook hole things. If you wanted to hang it on a wall this is incredibly important. Patrick started cutting before he noticed it and honestly, I wasn’t going to use it so it didn’t matter at all to me!)
I painted my letters before we had even started cutting or measuring because I knew that I would need at least two coats of paint. I decided to go with Tigers colors since Patrick is such a fan of them!
Now take your chipboard and place it over the scrapbook paper and trace.
Here’s my favorite part, adhering it to the chipboard. Like I said before, I used what I had lying around which happened to be ModPodge in a glossy finish.
As you can see in the above picture, I got a little careless. There’s some bubbling because when I placed the paper down, I thought it was off a TINY bit and ended up screwing it up. Don’t be worried. You won’t be able to tell after sealing it some more, I promise!
I used super glue to place these down. If you’re using MP, that will keep it on there but I knew I was putting it outside so I wanted it to be SUPER sturdy.
I took the twine, braided it together, and super glued it down. I’m probably going to find something else in order to make sure it’s not going to fall, but it seems to be holding quite well. I tested it out on a doorknob and it was just fine! (See what I mean about those hook things? Make sure those are in the middle like a normal picture would have.)
Like I said before, Patrick is a minimalist. He likes it like this and prefers it without the baseball “seams” that were on the picture I saw. If you want to add this, all you need to do is get a bowl and trace a half circle on the top and bottom in black. Once that is done, add little red stitches to mimic a real baseball. If you want to put this outside, make sure you weather proof it.
I hope that you enjoyed this “tutorial” of sorts, I did not come up with this. I found it on Pinterest!
Until next time,
It's I heart Monday ya'll!!!
These past two weeks have been crazy and super stressful! I had a cold that still isn't all the way gone (go away already), family is ill, I started a new job, we opened the lake, and now we are selling one of the summer places at the lake!! It's crazy! We will still have my grandparent's place so that's good, and you never know what might come our way!
Here is some positive inspiration to get your week started!
I downloaded a new app called Afterlight. It's like a mini photoshop for your phone. I love it, and idk why I haven't been using it this whole time! For only .99 cents it really is worth the price if you want professional looking edited photos.
I also was looking for a different app that will let you write over your photos. There's always A Beautiful Mess, but I wanted more fonts and more customisation. Over is the app I chose, and it's a bit more at $1.99. You can do a lot more with this app! I've only played with it for a bit, but the photo is above next to Afterlight.
If it's a weekend, then you know we are at the lake! We have a summer place on Deep Lake, and have had it for over 50 years now! This past weekend was full of work, washing walls, organising drawers, fixing bathrooms and sweeping, but it's all worth it for a summer at the lake. The lake has definitely earned its spot on my I heart Monday list and will probably take up many many more spots as well! I love it up there.
You never really appreciate it until you don't have it anymore. When I was here all the time I didn't go up so often, but when I went to Shanghai I found myself talking more and more about the lake, remembering the fun times we had there.
Ashley and my gymnastics routines during the Olympics that one year, painting our nails every colour we could and then taking it all off so we could paint it again. Purple and turquoise were our favourite colours.
Toby having friends up and whipping them around on the speedboat. Catching turtles and frogs in the channel.
Long float boat rides with the family, rocking with the waves when a speedboat got too close. Sticking our legs out the railing on the front of the floatboat so we could pretend we were barefooting like dad.
Grilling out with hotdogs and hamburgers, garbage can cookouts, and The Events!!
Playing with that 'Map of the USA' puzzle and trying to get it to actually look like a map of the USA. Impossible.
Having everyone up at the lake before and after my(our) wedding, and showing everyone why 'the lake' is so amazing.
The Beach Bar. And 'The Stop'.
The trailer on the hill, then the trailer on the lake, and then the trailer on the other hill.
But there are always bad memories with the good. And it's only then do we really appreciate the good ones. There have been plenty of bad ones, like when Toby hit his head on the dock trying to do a front flip, or when I accidentally killed like 10 baby tree frogs trying to keep them in an aquarium in the sun, or when Toby hit his head on the water and had to get lifeflighted to Toledo Hospital, or that feeling you get on Sunday when you have to go back to Toledo cause you have work on Monday, or even worse, in the fall when the lake closes. Basically Toby needs to be more careful.
Like I said, take the good with the bad. The lake will always be a place that brings me joy, filled with so many memories of my own, and so many more that I hope my family will share with me one day. Then I can share them with my kids one day. And on and on.
Here is a cute little turtle I found in the water. I took a photo and put it back so it would grow up.
This was Coopers reaction to previous turtle.
What is it?!
Last but certainly not least...chocolate. I found this in the most unconventional of places, Old Navy. Seriously. It was a total impulse buy but man did it hit the spot. Caramel. Brownie. Hazelnut. OMG. It's so good that I've been saving it. That means that I have been NOT EATING it on purpose. Thats how good it is. So yum.
Please go get one now and you're welcome. It is heaven.
That's it for this week's I heart Monday. I'm thinking of making it every week again, what do you all think?! Is there anything else you'd like to see on here?!
Post some suggestions!
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