1. a woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth.
1. bring up (a child) with care and affection."the art of mothering"
Usually Mother's Day comes and goes, with a little present for mom and a sweet card, and then it's on with my day. Yes I appreciate my mother, but I haven't really thought twice about it. Like, really really thought about it. This year I have a couple of observations about Mother's Day, and I'd like to share them!
1. I've noticed on my Facebook feed that a lot of people have lost their mothers in the past month, or year, or couple of years. I cannot even imagine how this must feel. How these holidays must feel. It's not just birthdays, Christmas, and Thanksgiving, it's also Mother's Day where we remember our loved ones even more than we already do. Where we are forced to remember that they are no longer with us, and it makes you miss them that much more. For some of you, this is your first Mother's Day without your mom, some of you your second or tenth and still, it must be so hard. I wish I could tell you that it gets easier. I wish I could take that hurt away. But I can't. The only advice I can give is to hold on. Think of all the happy times you had together. Don't let their memories fade, but don't spend the day being sad about it either. Your mom would never want you to be sad. I know lots of moms and they want lots of happiness for their children. This means you too. :)
Like I said, I am not in your shoes, I do not know what it feels like, but one day, hopefully a long long time from now, I will. I will look back and think of the good times we had and celebrate my mother, because my mom is the shit.
2. Everyone has a mother. Even if they're not your birth mother, everyone has someone that they call mom, or even someone that they go to that acts like a 'mom' to them. This could be a grandma, a friend, an aunt or even a friend's mom. Every persons situation is different and that's ok.
Part of the definition above lists the verb form of 'mother' which is 'to bring up with care and affection (mothering).'
Now, I know a lot of people who I could consider a 'mom' in this context, and I think we all could. I think these people should be celebrated as well. :) Don't forget to thank those other women in your life who you turn to for support and advice. They are worthy of your love too!!!
3. Sometimes it's the little things that count the most. Don't stress over getting your mother the right gift. If you don't live close to one another, send flowers or call her for a chat. Send her a letter via pony mail. Who cares if it does not get there right on Mother's Day?! I'm sure she won't remember the day it arrives as much as what you put in it, the words you used and how if made her feel. If you do live close, arrange a brunch or dinner together, get a pedicure. Take a walk down memory lane and talk about your favourite memories from your/her childhood. Or just straight up take a walk together. Make her a homemade card. Draw her a bath and give her an hour of undisturbed soak time. It's not how much money you spend, it's how your spend your time.
All in all, Mother's Day should be about the women who take care of you, the women who you can turn to when you are having a bad day, the ones who are always there. Make sure you let them know.
Happy Mother's Day!! Leave me some love!
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